I Help Analytical, Thoughtful Guys Talk to Women With Confidence
You do well in life. But knowing what to say to someone you like is the one thing that hasn't clicked yet. The conversation stalls or just stays friendly. And most advice out there feels fake and cringe.
If yelling in bars or trying to be 'alpha' isn't your thing, you're in the right place. See how this is different:
Who this is for
Most of the men I work with are in tech, engineering, science, or similar analytical fields. They do well in life and they solve complex problems for a living.
While their peers were out socializing they preferred focusing on career, studies, or other skills.
Many thought that if they fixed the other areas of their life, dating would fall into place. But that didn't happen.
Because they still blank out around women, don't know how to create that connection or attraction, and either their conversations fizzle out or they get seen as a friend.
Which category are you in?
Freezing up and not coming up with anything to say
Because smart people tend to overthink, they are ironically more likely to blank out. I help them think and speak as effortlessly as when they're with a close friend.
Being able to talk, but being seen as the "friend"
When you're stuck in logical communication, you don't trigger any emotions in her. And therefore, she sees you as a friend. I help logical guys communicate in a way that triggers her emotions.
Coming out of a long-term relationship and feeling lost
The dating scene has changed so much that it's nauseating. I help you talk to women without having to use apps or Instagram. Instead, I can help you attract a loyal and honest partner through honest communication, even if you've been out of the game for 10+ years.
For guys who cringe at the usual dating advice
Most dating advice is written for the average guy who wants to know what to say to a girl to get her in bed.
But the guys who come to us are analytical, smart, thoughtful, often introverted, and just cringe thinking about scripts and openers.
They want real connection: A partner they're genuinely aligned with, someone to build a life with, and for a lot of them, eventually a family.
They're tired of being the one on the sidelines at weddings, watching friends settle down and start families while they wonder when (or if) it'll be their turn.
But when they talk to someone they like, they get stuck in their head, hold themselves back, and become this boring, stiff person they don't want to be.
Here's how we work so that they can escape from their own shackles:
No tactics. No tricks
We don't teach pickup lines. We don't teach manipulation. We don't tell you to "just be yourself" and hope for the best. We teach you what we call Man-to-Woman Communication, meaning unapologetically being authentically you.
Diagnostic 1-on-1 work
Every guy's specific block is different. We identify exactly what is holding you back. Most likely, you find it's not what you thought it was.
Made for overthinkers
The same thoughtful, analytical, planning brain that makes you successful at work overthinks every conversation. We help you refocus your mind. So you can come up with sharp topics rather than worrying about every single outcome.
What I actually believe
There are a thousand dating coaches out there. Before you trust me with something this personal, I want you to know what I believe, so you can decide if our values align.
Most of us were told to "just be yourself, just be kind." For most analytical, thoughtful men, that advice doesn't work. It leads straight to the friendzone.
The opposite extreme is the pickup world: manipulation, games, treating women as targets. That doesn't work either. At least not for the kind of long-term relationship our clients want.
What is Man-to-Woman Communication?
The solution is something we call Man-to-Woman Communication. What works for guys like us is something else entirely. I call it Man-to-Woman Communication: speaking with confidence and clarity. Not apologizing for who you are. Not treating attraction like something to be ashamed of.
Showing romantic interest is not creepy. It's honest. Done right, it's the most respectful thing you can do.
That's the line we help our clients walk.
I'll help you switch from logical to emotional communication
They've tried solving this for years: Books, apps, courses, even bootcamps.
And when it fails they think that's proof that they're fundamentally broken.
When they come to us, and learn to switch from logical to emotional communication, things change.
- Overthinking
- Blanking out
- Friend-vibes
- Flow
- Chemistry
- Attraction
It's not too late, and it's not something's wrong with you. I want to help you do this shift.
When that happens, communication with other humans falls into place — be it with women, in friendship, or at work.
About Mathew Manning
I grew up without a father figure so I never really had a male role model who could teach me about women and dating.
I had a high pitched voice and the girls called me "little Matty".
They liked me, but as a friend. And when I grew older I completely blanked out around anyone I found remotely attractive.
I eventually joined one of those pickup programs and spent a year in Las Vegas.
To my surprise I was able to get laid using their techniques. But it was also one of the most miserable periods of my life.
It was an ego boost at first. But then I just felt empty trying to bed girls I had nothing in common with.
I realized I'm not into partying and yelling and bars and trying to be "alpha".
I started to realize that I had been following advice for men who were nothing like me.
Read more about Mathew →Ready to figure this out?
The first step is a free Breakthrough Call. We'll talk through where you're at, find the specific pattern that's been keeping you stuck, and figure out if working together is the right next step.
No pressure. If it's not the right fit, I'll tell you. And I'll point you somewhere that might be.